Being effective is really, really simple. The problem is that it takes a long time and a lot of effort in order to become effective at anything.
At my day (really, night) job, I work as a public safety dispatcher. You know it as 911. We work a little differently in that we don’t dispatch for the police, just for fire and medical. There are nine different positions that have to be learned, and each position takes anywhere from a month to a month and a half to really learn. And even after you learn the position, you don’t become really effective at it until you’re about three years in. And even then, there are new situations that always pop up. The only thing you can really do is your best, relying on your training and your experience (and the experience of others) in order to make it through the incident.
You see the infomercials on late night/early morning television—you know the one’s I’m talking about: exercise for 90 days, and you’ll get a body like this* (*results not typical). The reason they tell you in the fine print that the results aren’t typical is because people don’t follow the plans to the letter, and they don’t tell you that the people you’re following on the screen have been doing it for years. No, not the leaders who are talking, the people in the back who are sweating and grunting. They’ve put in the work, and their effort shows. What also shows is the effectiveness of what they’re doing. It just took time and effort to get there.
Martial artists, hypnotists, yogi, acrobats, jugglers, painters, builders, creators of all types have learned their craft, worked at it, practiced it daily, until they’ve mastered it—and then they continue to learn.
You want to be effective? Then you’ve got to put in the hard work. Get out all of the bad words and drawings and such by practicing. Practice daily, so when a job comes your way, you’ll be ready to take advantage of the opportunity and be effective in doing it.